One aspect of a partner that many people agree on needing, is a loyal partner. It is so painful and traumatic to find out that your partner is cheating on you and more often than not, recovering from this damage from your relationship is impossible. However, as much as you may love your relationship, you deserve to know the truth about the person you are with on this life journey, which is why it is very essential to know whether or not your partner is cheating on you. Here are tell signs that will let you know if your partner is cheating on you or not.
Secretive Behaviour
A relationship should be a safe space where everything is just shared between you and your partner without the need to hide it. This is why, if you start feeling like your partner is hiding things from you, you need to follow up on this behaviour. If your partner starts hiding their phone and deleting things anxiously, this is a cause for concern. Worse off, if they change their passwords, feigning security, something is fishy. If, therefore, you go from a relationship where there are no secrets at all, to feeling the secretive walls crawling up in your relationship, chances are that your partner is cheating on you.
Sudden Unexplainable Expenses
If you and your partner have already synched your financial standing with each other and maybe even opened a joint bank account, you are probably used to the expenses that pop up on your bank statement by now. This is why if some expense that you can't relate to pops up, there is room for concern. While one expense can be explained off, if you continue seeing expenses that are not aligned with what your partner spends money on or what you spend money on ( and this is in the case of no identity theft), chances are that your partner has started spending money on another person. A sudden drop in finances usually accounts for infidelity, which is why you need to look more closely at it.
Reduced Affection
The affection that you receive from your partner should be consistent with what they have always given you from the beginning of the relationship. If there is a sudden change in this, it may mean that your partner is being affectionate elsewhere, causing them to become less affectionate with you. If you ask your partner about this reduction in affection and their answers are generic answers like “I don't know”, then chances are that you are being cheated on.
Reduced Attention
When you are in a relationship, you deserve all the attention that is humanly receivable from your partner. This is because someone who truly loves you will pay attention to you, which you know because your partner used to be attentive to you. However, if your partner starts to suddenly feel distracted and sometimes even fails to hear what you say because they are in their head or on their phone, then your partner might just be cheating on you. In doing that, they are dividing their attention with someone else, leaving you on the receiving end of very little attention.
Increased Anxiety About You Cheating
One of a cheater’s worst nightmares is being cheated on. So, they will start being anxious about their partner’s whereabouts and who they talk to, as a reflection of what they do. Therefore, if you want to tell if your partner is cheating on you, one sign of that is that your partner will become anxious about you cheating, with no probable cause. Moreso, this anxiety may just be a deflection by them to stop you from paying attention to their cheating. Instead of you catching them cheating first, they will, therefore, just start blaming you, on no reasonable grounds, for cheating.
A Change In Energy
If someone loves you, you can feel their energy for you. They will get excited to be around you and they will always find ways of spending time with you. Their outlook on you will also be very positive and so will be their attitude. However, if your partner starts changing their energy on you and instead of spending time with you, they consistently suddenly feel tired and don't make time for you anymore, chances are that they are being unfaithful to you. If things start getting uncomfortable and they start suddenly avoiding you and just reacting and behaving the complete opposite of what they used to do, this energy change can be attributed to their infidelity. This is because once someone starts cheating, they probably aren't as appreciative of their partner anymore and this superficial high will momentarily make them forget all about their partner and their partner’s needs, causing this change in energy.
They Look For Reasons To Start Fights
People who cheat are always trying to find things and people to blame this cheating on, other than themselves. This is why they may start to suddenly pick fights with you for no reason so that they can find an opportunity to distance themselves from you both emotionally and physically and cheat without feeling bad. If your partner is, therefore, just suddenly picking fights over very minor things, then they ask for space after, chances are that your partner is cheating on you. Another reason why a cheating partner starts picking unnecessary fights is also so that they can deflect you from seeing their behaviour. So, by manipulating you and making it seem like you are continuously wronging them, they will be able to cheat without you noticing. However, because you now know, you need to look into this behaviour.