Ending a relationship with your significant other is difficult enough when you both agree to the separation, but when one of you wants to stay together, it can lead to some nasty situations.
These former partners shared their experiences with exes who had a scorched-earth approach to breakups and preferred revenge over maintaining a civil relationship.
A friend of mine divorced his then-wife because she would only speak French when her family came over. She was Spanish, as was her family. To make matters worse, her family spoke English, French, and Spanish, while my friend could only speak Spanish and English.
She got bored of being married to him, and her family would talk badly about him behind his back while he was there. It wasn’t until he recorded a conversation while they were there and had it translated that he found out what was going on.
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My buddy had a wedding about 15 years ago. We thought he had found the perfect woman – she was always so nice, extremely attractive, and from what we gathered through manly banter and her own jokes at the poker table, amazing in bed. Wedding time came around, and the minister asked, “Does anyone have a lawful objection?” From there, everything unraveled. His dad objected because he hadn’t found a way to tell everyone that he had cheated on my buddy’s mom decades ago. But get this: the “other woman” was the bride’s mother. And guess what?
The bride was my buddy’s half-sister. Apparently, only the parents knew the truth. A DNA test later confirmed it. Now my friend is in therapy because “the best love and lay of my life was my sister!”
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I was dating this girl who asked me to go to her ex’s wedding. We had been dating for a few months, but the idea of going to a wedding together felt like a serious commitment… nonetheless, I accepted. I took a week off work, and we went all out for this wedding. Half the time, I was trying to make the most of our time together, but she always went missing. Fast forward to the reception. She made a scene in the most unstable and mentally sick way. In front of the groom, the bride, and everyone else, she said out loud: “I’m still in love with you. We literally have been sleeping together all week, and I can’t stop thinking about you.” She was quickly escorted out after that. The bride was clearly upset, but everyone tried to go about their business.
As soon as I left, my “girlfriend” started completely ruining the hall and all the decorations, throwing a fit on her way out. It was so embarrassing. I figured she was telling the truth since she was missing the whole time, but I’m pretty sure that everyone during the whole thing assumed this was too crazy to be real. I definitely regret not seeing her true colors before, but when you work so much and try to date at the same time, you have very little time to really get to know some people. Time sort of flies by and you end up dating for a few months. Fast forward a month or two later… she got together with the groom, and I’m pretty sure she has no regrets.
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My brother’s ex-wife caused a lot of issues during their marriage. She would intentionally start arguments with him over the phone, record him getting angry, and then report him to the authorities. When their marriage ended, she stopped paying for their house, and it was eventually repossessed. After they divorced, the worst thing she did was start a relationship with our younger brother. We were all surprised and shocked when we found out about this.
They lasted for two years, and we found out she would have secret dates at my mom’s house. Our brother told us after they broke up that she began giving him attention as young as sixteen years old. Our whole family is disgusted with her.
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Always A Cheater
My ex cheated on me while I was deployed and then got engaged to the other guy. Before I moved to a new duty station, she contacted me to say goodbye. We ended up hooking up.
While she was asleep, I found his underwear drawer and left a note that said, “Cheaters cheat. By the way, I didn’t use protection.” I signed it. I can’t help but look back on that memory fondly.
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I had a client who was a large man but had been domestically mistreated by his much smaller wife throughout their marriage. After the divorce, she turned her anger on their son. He ran away one day to live with his dad, and we filed to restrict his ex’s parenting time and ask for a permanent modification to the custody agreement. At the permanent hearing, she denied hurting the child or my client in front of the child. She said she never threatened anyone ever and that she never made disparaging remarks about my client in front of their son, either. But there was one big thing she didn’t know and couldn’t tell her attorney.
My client had recorded multiple instances of her doing all of these things. So I called my client back up for rebuttal right after her testimony and played an audio recording of her screaming at my client, threatening to break his face in, and calling him a loser, while the child could be heard in the background begging her to stop. I looked over at the other attorney, and she had her face in her hands. We won.
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I suspect that my boyfriend has been secretly drugging me and manipulating my perceptions, a tactic known as gaslighting. It’s difficult to explain, but I’ve been experiencing gaps in my memory that I’ve been dismissing as being due to being tired, overworked, or something else. I was going to ask my boyfriend about it since he’s a doctor, but then I started to notice something disturbing. These gaps in my memory seem to happen when I go on dates with him. I know this may sound crazy, but I’ve awoken with dried…stuff…on my chest multiple times without any memory of the previous night. I’m certain it’s him. The first time this occurred was when we were drinking, and I attributed it to having had too much alcohol. But then it happened a few more times when I knew for certain we weren’t drinking. I made the decision to break up with him over it…only to suddenly find myself on a date with him a few days later. I hadn’t yet had the conversation to break up with him but had planned on it for our next talk. I remember being at the restaurant, but nothing before that. Both my car and his car were in the parking lot, which left me confused. I decided to go along with it when he asked me to come back to his place.
After three days at his place, I suddenly regained all my memories, so I started to trust him again. I was going to ask him about my memory issues when he pointed out some red bumps on my thigh and told me I should be treating them as sores. I had completely forgotten they were there. The bumps looked like infected needle injections. I was so alarmed that he had noticed them that I decided to leave. The next day, he came over to “check on me,” and I remember waking up in bed with no memories. Then today, he met me for lunch, saying we had agreed to meet beforehand. I never agreed to meet with him and have no desire to do so now. He does this all the time, saying we’ve agreed to do something that I have no memory of. I’m fed up with it and want him to be punished. This has started to impact my work life as well, as I become paranoid when I see a boss walk into a room after making eye contact with me, fearing that they’re about to fire me. My friends have also noticed that I’ve been acting strangely and out of character. I’ve even started losing sleep and sleepwalking. Is there a way to get blood work done to see what kind of drug he’s been using on me?
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My ex-wife disowned our son. We both got married at a young age while I was serving in the military, and she became pregnant six months into our marriage. I don’t think she had any real connection to him after he was born. The most she did with him was take Instagram photos of herself as the “best mom” while he was present. When he turned three, I left the military. One year later, she left us. I can still vividly recall the day we sat down at a restaurant to discuss divorce and divide our assets and possessions.
When we finally had to address custody (something I was dreading because fathers rarely win custody in this area), she surprised me with her shocking response: “I want no responsibility at all.” I asked her if she was sure, and she was. That one sentence hurt more than anything else. My biological father had rejected me, and now I was seeing it happen to my own child. I was granted full custody, and she remarried a year later. Her parents try their best to be a part of his life, but she still avoids him. He’s seven now and has become accustomed to it.”
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I Told You So
My ex and I remained friendly after our breakup. He started seeing someone new and introduced us. He asked me what I thought of her, and I had a bad feeling about her. I warned him to be careful. As I got to know her better, I just had a sense that she was trouble.
He laughed it off and said I was just saying that because I still had feelings for him, but that wasn’t the case. A few years later, he needed legal representation because she ruined his business, caused problems with his family, stalked and harassed him, and even had him under investigation by the FBI. It took him a couple of years to fix the mess she caused. I definitely said to him I told you so.
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Keep An Eye Out
My ex planted a dog camera facing my bed before leaving. It took me a week to realize she had put it there. She also rented the apartment directly beside mine and would monitor who was coming in and out of my place.
She would then text my friends to see if we were “doing anything.” They could see her perched on her window, watching who was approaching while they were walking up to my apartment.
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My ex-husband started dating his stepmom who has been in his life since he was eleven years old. YIKES. His stepmom and him are still together almost five years later. His stepmom confessed her love of my ex to his dad a few years ago and they have since divorced. The dad is now dating a twenty-one-year-old. It’s so messed up and I’m so grateful I left him when I did. The father and my ex-husband don’t speak. Basically everyone in his family hates my ex-husband and have cut him mostly out of their lives.
It may have been a little grooming, but if you met my ex-husband, you’d see he’s all-around a plotting, manipulative, crummy person so I think it was the other way around. He constantly talked during our marriage about how hot she was.
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Trying Out Long-Distance
My now ex-girlfriend had recently moved due to getting a new job; I was still going to college and we were trying out the long-distance thing. She was visiting for a weekend, and we decided to fool around in my room. Afterward, she went to the bathroom to clean herself up. That’s when I got a surprising and unexpected phone call. It was a guy who knew my name. He started yelling at me, demanding to know if I’d been with his new girlfriend. It turned out we were dating the same girl. Of course, I confronted her.
She started screaming and crying, accusing me of cheating, so I turned away from her and told her to get out of my house. That’s when things went downhill. She roared like she was possessed, grabbed a cell phone charger, and whipped me in the back with it. Before I could turn around, she jumped on my back and wrapped it around my neck. I was just flabbergasted. Since I am a 5’10” tall, 170 lb. male, and she was approx 5′ tall and 100 lbs., I just picked her up and calmly tossed her out of my room.
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Fake Social Media Pages
My ex stalked me for five years. She would make fake social media profiles to try to follow me, which I would block endlessly, and she would try to find where I worked so she could talk to me. But that’s just the tip of the iceberg. This lady cheated on me with seven different men in the two months after we were married. I kicked her butt to the curb and made her sign the court papers. When we had our day in court she cried in the judge’s office while I just wanted to get this stuff over with.
After, my dad was with me and dealt her one final blow: He threw 50 dollars at her and told her to, “Change your last name.” Good thing to do as she deserved it. I haven’t seen or heard from her in about five years now. Thank goodness.
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It Kept Getting Worse
My ex-boyfriend just absolutely lost it when I had enough and ended things. He took my dog when he went back to work, told my parents I was suicidal, so he had to know where I was, and when I tried staying at either of my parents’ places, my vehicle would get vandalized. He threatened to take me to the authorities because he had someone do something to his house and claimed it HAD to be me. Meanwhile, I was at the bar on the night in question. He blackmailed me for my dog, threatening that he would have one of his friends off her, or that he was going to release her in traffic, and if she got hit, it would be my fault. But it got even more insane.
My work had to create a plan where the building would go on lockdown should he show up as he was threatening them too. The final straw was when my brother left his phone out, and my ex was calling it non-stop. I picked up and lost it. I found a place to rent and told nobody where it was, not even family.
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Avoid Her At All Costs
This girl I dated in high school for over a year was all kinds of manipulative and crazy. I finally broke up with her after she cheated on me. I decided to break up with her in her room at her house, so I could leave immediately. When I said it, she (without even thinking about it), grabbed her jewelry box and chucked it at her window. The glass shattered, and she started grabbing chunks of broken glass and throwing them at me. Two hit me: one in the shoulder, one grazed my face.
I ran from that house and made a point to avoid her at all costs at school. After she found out that I had told people about the encounter, she went even crazier. She came to my house in the middle of the night with a friend, who threw an entire barbecue through my bedroom window. Needless to say, we got the cops involved.
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I was going out with my ex for a few years, at which point we were living together. She was pretty bonkers so I decided to break up with her. After a few hours of crying I went out for a while (but not before tactically hiding my Xbox). I came home that evening to find that she had moved all her stuff out and gone to her mother’s, but that wasn’t all. She had also taken all of the light bulbs and toilet paper so I couldn’t see what the heck was going on (nor could I use the toilet). I thought that was pretty weird but things were going to get a whole lot weirder. After I fumbled my way to bed and woke up in the morning, I found torn-up photos and other bits of things from our relationship ALL OVER the place with little messages written on the back.
This was pretty freaky so I cleaned them up and went to work. The next night rolled around. This time, I woke up halfway through the night and she was there, standing in the darkness of my bedroom doorway, silhouetted by one of my brand new lightbulbs in the hall. She just stood there and said, “Don’t freak out.” I freaked out. She got into bed with me and said that she wanted to cuddle. I was still pretty freaked out and half asleep so I said, “I would rather not,” and she just turned to me and said, “You’ve changed.” She left and, thankfully, I pretty much never saw her again ever again. Not that it stopped me from changing all the locks to my place.
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He Wasn’t Fooling Anyone
My ex-boyfriend called me and pretended that he had been hit by a car while we were talking. He even tried to voice the crowd that had gathered around his body. He wasn’t fooling anyone. I saw right through that god-awful acting. But it was pretty funny listening to him mimic a woman’s voice. Points for trying to be inclusive, I guess. I think he was trying to get me to relive my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually had been hit by a car while we were talking.
Which is completely messed up in itself. Too bad he didn’t realize that hearing the real thing is wildly different than hearing an idiot try to act it out. Dodged a bullet with that one.
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My Mail Went Missing
My ex came to my apartment while my now-husband was there. He rang the doorbell and admitted that he’d been watching us through the glass in the front door. He then proceeded to threaten to take out my husband after the confrontation.
He also tried to get hired at our place of work. He got so far as the interview before I found out and called human resources to let them know he would be a threat to us. Somehow, that’s not the weirdest part. A couple of weeks later, my mail went missing, and it turned out he had taken it and…paid my electric bill.
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Prepare For the Worst
I once was in a pretty nasty relationship. When we broke up, we’d both gotten this temp job that was scheduled way in advance. Soon, it was time for me to start my first day. I gird my loins, preparing for the worst, but what I got was something I couldn’t prepare for. It happened while we were doing first-day introductions. During introductions, she stared at me blankly and asked, “What’s your name?” I was so confused, but I heard from a mutual friend that she was in a car crash and got temporary amnesia. Then I heard from another friend that she slipped in the rain.
In fact, I heard a bunch of different stories and am forced to conclude that she pretended to have amnesia with multiple people in order to deal with our breakup.
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Craziest Day Ever
About six months after the divorce I had moved into a small apartment and had a date over at my place. I hadn’t heard from my ex in a few months and they were always very cordial. My date and I were watching a movie and cuddling on the couch when there’s a knock at the door. I figured it was one of my friends and just opened it without checking first. It was my ex-wife. She pushed the door open and came in and I had no idea how she found out where I lived as I had never told her. She comes in, livid that I have a date over. I told her it was none of her business but she threatened the girl I was with. The date ends up leaving after a few minutes of dealing with the wench. She then proceeds to pull a knife from my kitchen drawer and threatens to kill herself. I was a decent person, I calmed her down and got the knife away.
We talk in a calm manner for a while where she says she misses me, blah, blah. She then goes to use my bathroom which was in my bedroom. She didn’t come back for a while so I go to check, fearing she did something stupid. Well, she did, but not anything harmful. She is lying in my bed, touching herself. When I walk in I’m like, “What in the world!” She proceeds to say, “Don’t you want this, don’t you miss this?” When I said “no” she tried to throw herself at me. I resisted and pushed her away. This battle goes on for what seems like forever with her continuously trying to take my pants off and kiss me. Finally she gets the hint and leaves. Craziest day ever.
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She Had A Lot Of Time On Her Hands
My ex changed the timestamps of photos with her to make it look like I was seeing her after we had broken up. She edited hundreds, and I do mean hundreds, of messages to make it look like I was cheating on my new girlfriend.
Furthermore, she accused one of my closest friends of harming her on a night that she had spent with me. Two and a half years into my new relationship, my girlfriend still didn’t fully trust me because of my ex’s nonsense.
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During the breakup, my ex of five years told me she was disgusted with me physically, and that was why we weren’t intimate anymore. Well, me being the irrational person I am, decided to prove to her in a ridiculous manner that I was in fact not disgusting.
I began a year and a half long campaign to hook up with all of her past and present friends, and mostly succeeded.
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High School Love
My first really serious boyfriend told my best friend he was planning on breaking up with me (and then was shocked when she told me beforehand?). He then asked me to meet him at the coffee shop where we first met at 10:00 at night. When we got there, I said, “You can’t break up with me. I’m breaking up with you first!” His reaction shocked me. Instead of being sad, he just said, “Okay,” and THAT ticked me off, so I took off my shoes and took off running, barefoot, down the empty main street of my town.
So I expect that I’m his “crazy-ex” story. He told me later, when we were no longer idiots in high school, that he thought I was preparing to smack him across the face with my sandal.
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My then-boyfriend locked me in a hotel room for three days with no food, only tap water, because I had a five-minute conversation with an ex (who I ran into randomly).
That was apparently “emotional cheating,” so he felt entitled to force me to stay in that room for three nights, and threatened to beat me (and my ex) up if I tried to leave.
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I Made It All Worse
We were together for over two years, but she broke up with me over some regrettable things I said. After the phone call, I spent the next two months calling all of her friends, sisters, and parents in hysterics (around 20 people),
And told them all the horrible things I said to her while we were together and how I was sorry for it. She was already insecure. I made things A LOT worse…
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Sunday Dinners With Mom
My ex-husband had Sunday dinners with my mom for many years after our divorce.
He never had a real mom so I didn’t mind sharing mine as long as I didn’t have to be there.
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When I was in college, my boyfriend and I broke up. He initiated the breakup, and I subsequently broke off contact because I felt that it was healthier for both of us. Suddenly, he wanted to get intimate with me, and I didn’t want to. So, I refused politely once and then never answered another attempt at communication with him again. Well, he didn’t like that.
We had been broken up for a year when he reported me missing to campus security and the authorities because I stopped answering his constant calls and texts. When officers and campus security found me, they helped me get a restraining order against him.
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Made Up Stories
Two years after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend and cut contact, I moved to another country and found a new girlfriend. My ex proceeded to send her an email every single day for a year. Then, she tried telling my girlfriend that I tried to cheat on her while I was home for Christmas.
It was a five-page long email with every single detail. I don’t know how she got her email since this was before social media and we lived in a different country. Story credit: Reddit / Kiwikid
Thoughtful And Considerate
My ex ended our relationship after I said I would do whatever she wanted one night.
I let her have the choice, whatever makes her happy. How dare I be thoughtful and considerate.
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