Marriage is all about lasting commitment and an insatiable bond that lasts a lifetime. Most people carefully pick their partners as they ready themselves to spend eternity with them.
These stories we have today, however, are of the darker side of marriage. The side is filled with pain, regrets, and a desire to find out. Read on and immerse yourself in the stories of people who took the wrong turn.
1. Bad Start
Got married. Went on a honeymoon in China. We were both PhD students at the time. I was working class. Her family was middle class. Her father gave her $10,000 for the honeymoon.
So we go to China to celebrate AND she wants to do some light pre-dissertation research while there for a month or two. Fine.
It turns out, I spent the entire two months alone in tiny hostels, while she did research. I only spoke a few words of Mandarin and I was a broke graduate student, so I couldn’t really afford to/didn’t have the means to easily get to an airport to fly back home (I also had 0 family support back home, even if I did manage to make it home). I felt trapped.
I talked to her about how the trip felt like a research trip and not at all like a honeymoon, how I was alone almost every day.
We were sharing a laptop while on the trip (I was too poor to own a laptop, despite being in grad school). I open the laptop one morning before she leaves to go survey a field site without me. Her email is open.
She left a message open on the laptop. It’s to her father, stating she wishes I wasn’t there on the trip - our honeymoon. Again, I was told this would be a honeymoon with maybe a slight detour for research.
It had seemingly turned out to be a research trip where I was a burden. She apologized. We stayed together for a few more years after she got sick and I became a caretaker. I wish, in hindsight, I had left China after reading that email.
Mtt76812
2. The Copycat Man
When I realized that they were just mirroring my personality the entire time we dated after several years of marriage. They don’t have an original thought or individual aspirations.
They have to be walked through every aspect of their life. They married me in hopes that I would mother them. They didn’t even have an interest in sex after they found out it also required emotional intimacy on their part.
I dragged them to the doctor who put them on SSRIs. Begged them to go to therapy. They kept quitting and could never give me adequate reasons why.
We went to a couples therapist who they manipulated into believing they had low self-esteem. The therapist told me to “love them through it.”
I sought out my own therapy. The clinician helped me realize I was being manipulated into the role of caregiver without my consent. I told them I was leaving.
They promised to seek help. A new therapist saw them for 2 years. Within the first 7 months, they were diagnosed as a covert narcissist.
They eventually admitted to me that they got married to escape their home life. Their mother is a diagnosed narcissist who severely damaged her children emotionally and mentally.
Him specifically by putting him into the golden child role. In her eyes, he is so perfect no one deserves him and at the same time, she degrades and demeans him when he uses agency.
We are separated. I’ve never been happier. He’s utterly miserable because he moved back home. He would rather endure his mother’s torment than be responsible for his own decisions. Hope they are happy together! They deserve each other!
Spiritual-Village-46
3. Freeloader
About a year and a half into our marriage she got an internship with Disney and had to move to the other side of the county for seven months.
Six months into the internship she tells me that she met someone else. She continued to string me along for another six months saying she didn't want to get a divorce but she's just been really confused.
It turns out she just wanted to keep using me to pay all the bills while she finished her degree. Once she was a month away from finishing school she admitted that she never really wanted a relationship with me.
In fact, she only started dating me to make her ex jealous. She had been cheating on me for about ninety percent of our ten-year-long relationship.
She said that she had only stuck around because her ex didn't want to get back together and she didn't want to take care of herself.
She told me she knew the most recent guy she was cheating with was "the love of her life" after three weeks. They had a kid together less than a year after we got divorced and split up within two years.
zimbacca
4. Smooth Operator
When I found out he was cheating. Not only was he cheating but he used the same exact lines on his AP that he did when we were in the "talking phase".
After I discovered his affair and confronted him, he was adamant that he was not going to stop seeing or talking to her. I've never seen him so physically angry in our entire relationship. That was enough for me to get my things and go.
Turns out he was a really good liar. One of those cunning fox types that lies about stupid little things to make the bigger lies not seem like a lie.
mymommademewritethis
5. Blast From The Past
We'd been married several years and the marriage had gotten increasingly worse. He only ate out of those stackable plastic plates with the dividers (because they reminded him of being a kid and eating with his parents).
He saw them in the cabinet and was outraged because I hadn't stacked them inside one another (I stacked them, but at alternating angles, to ensure they were properly dry and wouldn't be wet between plates).
He started lecturing me, on how they fit inside each other, in an infantilizing way. I'd known for a long time I didn't want to be married to him anymore, but in that moment, I felt something else.
I stared at him with hatred and specifically thought "(name of best friend from college) wouldn't do this to me." I'm happy to say I'm out of the abusive marriage and engaged to my best friend from college.
miranda_alexis_
6. No Borders
I knew he was wrong for me for a while but it took a while to get divorced because there were several barriers. The problems he had included him throwing a temper tantrum when my dad was dying from sickness.
Another time, he yanked me out of bed after he cheated on me, accusing me of cheating on him while I had the flu. He still won't admit he cheated while I was sick in bed. Imagine that!
Dull-Geologist-8204
7. Not So Happily Ever After
I knew about 2 years after marrying. I was 29. We had been together for 8 years in total. We were arguing constantly and I’d never considered or really paused for a second to consider if we were actually right for each other.
I’d never been great with girls but we clicked and we went from dating to moving in to engaged in about 3/4 years. Then you get swept along wedding planning and when you pause for thought you realize it was wrong, but you were on an escalator that kept going from checkpoint to checkpoint so fast, you didn’t pause to think is this what I want?
Laying in bed one night, she was ill, and I’m such a soft and considerate person (to my detriment) but I glanced at her asleep and the thought “I don’t love you..” popped into my head from nowhere.
Terrifying and also embarrassing, when you’ve had a 150+ strong wedding 2 summers ago. No idea why it did, but one of the most overwhelming emotions was embarrassment at how I’d let it get to that point.
GrandDuty3792
8. Family Feud
I missed the early signs when my ex-MIL rallied her sisters to orchestrate cutting the youngest sister out of their mother’s will. It’s all she talked about and they freaking did it too.
The youngest sister was their mother’s primary caregiver and had moved her into her home to care for her with no help from any other family member. If anything she deserved a larger share.
And the apple didn’t fall far from the tree either. I was signed off our house title with a technicality and left with all the credit card debt. I saved up to challenge it but ended up buying another house with that money and moving on. No regrets, I met my actual wife shortly afterward.
Looking back, I did realize after seeing the ex-MIL’s behavior and my ex’s nonchalance that it was in fact a red flag. That was the moment.
Scorpionwins23
9. Baby Blues
I had a birth complication and my partner left for a weekend work trip. My mom called him and asked him how I was doing and if I needed anyone, cause I wouldn’t answer my phone. He told her I was fine and not to bother.
The worst part is I was supposed to go with him on the trip but I, obviously, was not able to (according to him I guess I was).
He wanted me to go see his friend, their wife, and their freaking baby. And somehow in all this, I FELT NEEDY and like I disappointed him.
So glad that’s over and done with. Been almost a year since we separated and 4 months since the official divorce.
mizzlol
10. This Little Piggy Stayed At Home
I came home in mid-December, soaking wet and frozen from a raging storm, having taken 2 buses after working 13 hours in a retail job on my feet all day.
What did I find? Well, the bin overflowing, the sink full of dishes, no food in the house, recycling hadn’t been taken out, cat litter tray filthy, but- small mercy- some pasta had been cooked.
My terminally unemployed ex-husband looked me straight in the eye and said “Don’t expect me to cook again, I’m too busy.”
I looked at him and thought “I hate you” and any feeling I had for him was dead at that moment. I knew I was done then.
FrankieLeeG
11. Ice Cream Revelation
On the wedding day…. She spent a fortune on unnecessary things, and I knew I’d be the one fitting the bill on the credit card she ran up.
So I told her no more, she said she wanted an ice cream vendor there (we already had two dessert bars) told her it was not needed.
She fought me on it but finally agreed. Wedding day comes, I’m standing with my groomsmen, in comes the ice cream truck. Knew right then, sadly.
StrangeJitsu
12. Sad-cation
It was actually almost immediately after getting married. Our relationship had taken a nose dive as soon as we moved in together. But after we got married, while we were in Greece on our honeymoon, he absolutely lost his mind on me in public.
I had wanted to go see a beach on the island that is supposed to be one of the most beautiful in the world, so we tried to catch the bus, but it never came. He screamed at me, telling me he hated traveling with me and how could I ruin his vacation like this.
Then we walked to the beach nearby and he went swimming with his two friends who he insisted come with us on the trip. I was too stunned and humiliated to do anything except sit on a beach chair and cry.
gridironbuffalo
13. Banned
When she sat me down and with a straight face said “I’ve thought about this and you’re not going to exercise anymore.”
I was jogging a few miles a day and would usually bring kids with me, in a running stroller. She said you’re a father and it’s too time-consuming. That’s when I realized I made a terrible mistake lol.
Catching her with another man in my car didn’t help the case to stay married. It confirmed what I already knew to be dead in my heart.
JD054
14. Show Some Compassion
I’m engaged, so not quite married yet. I knew when I had been on mandatory bedrest and caring for our infant son, after having emergency surgery for nearly bleeding to death after a process.
He just came home from work and looked me dead in the face and nonchalantly said "Why aren't the freaking dishes done?"
I immediately called my mom the next morning and told her I was leaving. I then hightailed it out of that place 2 weeks later.
Neverinfocus
15. Good Riddance
I figured it out after the 5th guy she screwed over 7 years of marriage. At least 5 I knew about anyway. Every time I thought it was me.
I could be a better husband, more caring, more supportive, more anything she needed. If I could just be a better spouse she would love me and then everything would be right and we would be fine.
Then it hit me, she doesn’t love me. I was just never going to be someone she loved no matter how good of a husband I was. So I told her I wanted a divorce and why. She didn’t even cry. I moved out that week, filed for divorce, got an apartment, and moved on.
Worked out for me though, I found a wonderful woman who does love me, we are happy and thriving together. We have been together for 15 years now. I’m just so happy.
Jimillett
16. Horrible Wife, Terrible Mother
It was a death of a thousand cuts. One of the first was when I realized she didn't trust me. We had been together for around 10 years at this point.
I had a moment of clarity and literally said to her "You don't trust me do you?" Before she could answer I said, "You don't trust anybody." And she agreed.
She would routinely throw the kids out of the tub and the bathroom completely naked because they splashed her while getting a bath. And not just that, she would yell at the top of her lungs at how bad they were.
The kids were around 2-4 at the time. God forbid the toddler splashes the water in the tub. Another time I don't even remember the cause but I tried to play mediator. As in "ok daughter you did something wrong, let's apologize to Mommy". And she would.
Then I'd ask mommy to apologize to our daughter for what for her role and mom absolutely refused to apologize. I've known this lady for more than 20 years and I've never heard her apologize. Literally never.
The final straw was when one of our kids wanted a hug goodnight before bedtime. She locked herself in our bedroom and refused the hug because she had hugged them earlier in the day.
The kids were crying. They didn't understand. I was devastated watching this unfold. Why doesn't Mommy want to hug me?
I try my best to not let it impact me. But we share custody now and I have to watch how she interacts with our kids. It's hard. The best consolidation is the kids are getting older and they're starting to figure it out.
overarmur
17. Drunk, But Not In Love
On my wedding day. We were married at her parent's house, a beautiful place in a private country club. The entire day was all about her, and she spent more time hanging out with her friend and getting drunk than with me.
I stayed busy visiting with all the guests during the day. After all the guests left and it was down to her parents and me, I found her passed out drunk upstairs in a bedroom.
I picked her up and carried her to our car to take her home. Needless to say, our wedding night consisted of her sleeping it off.
5 years later she went into in-patient treatment and after she sobered up and was released, she told me that she didn't love me and wanted a divorce.
metrology84
18. She Couldn’t Be Bothered
Not married but together for years. Got diagnosed with cancer and she kinda shut off. She then decided to leave several months later.
At an appointment I was officially 1 year clear, which is a milestone, I realized I was alone through a lot of it. She never wanted anything to do with it.
It was a revelation to myself that the relationship breakdown wasn't all because of me, she had a huge role to play too in how things shaped up
Got my 3-year tests this weekend, blood tests and scans, etc. My current GF is driving me and then taking me out to lunch afterward. Hell of an Upgrade.
HarrargnNarg
19. Tough Realisation
When she had some intimate time with a high-school flame for a year whilst hiding it and staying home on my single income. We weren’t working. I knew that.
I was trying to improve things, and we’d talked about it, but she somehow neglected to give me that detail. I’m not angry that she didn’t love me. But man, just tell me. Don’t do me dirty like that after thirteen years.
Winsdaddy
20. Text Messages Heartbreak
6 months after our wedding when I found out about the emotional (he says only emotional but I’m pretty sure it was physical too) affair through text messages.
He had sent his affair partner screenshots of my texts to him in which I was begging him to talk to me and tell me what was wrong.
They both proceeded to make fun of my desperation to fix my marriage and his affair partner said something along the lines of “poor valiant, she doesn’t know anything and keeps begging you for attention and affection”. The moment I read those words I realized how big of a mistake I had made.
Valiantlycaustic
21. Get Out!
I almost did, and TBH, there were A LOT of red flags prior to this, but this was the catalyst. We'd been dating for four years, slated to be married in 8 months.
I noticed he was making lots of likes and comments on 'Brittney's MySpace. Nothing huge or obvious. Then not long after, he locked his phone, but I managed to see he was also getting messages regularly from someone also named Brittney.
I had suspected, but no proof now. I worked swing and nights at the time. Came home early one night to him in our bed, with you know who! BRITTNEY.
THE FIRST THING THIS JERK SAYS WHEN I WALK IN ON THEM IS...get this... "THERE WAS NO EXCHANGE OF FLUIDS, I PROMISE BABE"
Later Brittney got a hold of me on MySpace, and we met up. She had no idea I was even in the picture. We're still friends. I kicked him and his "fluids" out of my house. The end.
angelfishfan87
22. Earn It!
I realized about 5 years into our 19-year marriage... but the nail that made me leave was when my ex said that our children hadn't EARNED his love, and that shook my whole foundation.
Speechless for 2 days and then I started thinking, wondering if I had EARNED his love yet..and I couldn't stop those kinds of thoughts...you don't earn love..it is freely given; especially to children...
Far-Phone8791
23. Heartless Lover
When my aunt, whom I loved dearly, passed away. She was only 54 and I was devastated by her loss, which my husband knew about.
As soon as we got home my husband said: “Well, that’s that. We can move on now.” She was just cold on the ground and he was saying that being dead (no pun intended) serious whilst turning on his PS4 to play games.
I was speechless and went to bed by myself, feeling so utterly lonely. Two days later he forgot my birthday. We’ve been divorced for seven years now.
Tahity1986
24. I tried, I really did.
I waited on her hand and foot. Every night, brought her a tea. Checked every room to make sure there were no intruders, went to the store for her if she wanted a snack, etc.
One day I was really sick with the flu and asked if she'd get me a Gatorade from the store. She was shocked that I asked and said, "Absolutely not."
Then I thought about it and realized that she had never complimented me, supported me, nurtured me, consoled me, or shown any level of emotional care for me.
I knew at that moment that she never would. All she did was complain that I didn't do enough for her. It took me a while but I realized I was in an abusive relationship.
The worst part is I tried to make it work, still, after all that and it was her that pushed me away because she wanted to move to Portland but it was also because I didn't make enough money at the time.
incredibleninja
25. Forced Marriage
The moment I had to “adjust” my boundaries, I knew I was with the wrong guy. The worst happened last year when after being together for 11 years, he chose to cheat with my niece who just turned 18 (I’m 30 btw).
It’s not the first time he cheated too. It just kept getting worse from there. With all the gaslighting and psychological trauma and abuse, I’d never wish that to anyone, not even on his mistresses.
I wish our country allowed for divorce. We stay in the Philippines by the way, So long story short, we’re unfortunately still together.
Ancient-Tip5463
26. It’s Not You, It’s Me
We had been engaged for just over a year (together for around a decade) and I realized I didn’t actually want to be with her.
The problem was, that I just was too invested and I didn’t want to make her upset. I knew we would end up getting divorced at some point down the road so I decided to end it before then.
Went to therapy and realized I had spent my whole childhood trying to make my parents happy, and then I immediately got into a relationship and spent all of my adulthood trying to make her happy. I was miserable because of it but I just didn’t know.
PM_ME_GARFIELD_NUDES
27. Instant Depression
We were in the bathroom getting showered and dressed for a friend’s wedding. I was in the best shape of my life at the time, feeling good about myself, and I thought I looked good in that suit.
She was finishing her makeup and I remarked on how beautiful she looked. I waited for her to say something nice in reply but she didn’t. And it just hit me. I couldn’t remember a single time that she complimented me on my appearance.
So I said that to her. I said, “You know, I always tell you how beautiful you are, and how attracted to you I am, but I never recall you ever saying that I look good or that I look handsome.”
She stopped applying her mascara long enough to dismissively roll her eyes at me.
So I made the mistake of asking her, “Do you even find me attractive?”
And she flatly said “No.” I asked, “Why did you marry me then?” And she said, “I didn’t think it was important at the time.”
I never felt so ugly and unloved. And it hurt even more when I had been feeling so good about myself for once in my life 30 seconds earlier.
Seandouglasmcardle
28. Not Interested
I had no idea how he felt about me. Almost 9 years together. He didn't propose, I did. He didn't tell his family when we married, they found out online.
He never shared his energy or emotions with me. I ultimately had a realization that I didn't even know what he thought of me, other than that I was pretty. I didn't know if he thought I was cool, funny, interesting, or smart.
I would share myself with him. My thoughts, interests, humor. I'd get nothing in return. I realized it had always been this way. I felt unseen, unheard.
I felt like I was boring and uninteresting. I didn't feel special. I just wanted to feel some sort of connection. I wanted our souls to meet. He seemed incapable.
Secure_Orange2855
29. I’m Out
When I ‘booked’ a business meeting to discuss how our future would change as our teens transitioned to university, assured him it was all positive, just wanted space to talk.
It’s always been very difficult to find time to talk to him so I figured I’d be all business-like since work has always been priority number one… that didn’t go well.
I had barely opened my mouth and he scolded me about my ever-changing hobbies. Those ‘ever-changing’ hobbies have been guitar and oil painting for the last 8 years…I mentally checked out that day.
AliCracker
30. Give Me The Bare Minimum
The first wife, I had inklings that I might not have married the right person when I was working full time (making very good pay) and she decided to quit her job and just sat at home on her butt.
We had a maid come every week to clean the house top to bottom, do the laundry and all the dishes - and the house was still a hellhole 6 days a week.
If dinner was made at all when I got home from work it was hamburger helper or a microwaved hot dog wiener and blue box macaroni and cheese.
It really became clear when I caught her cheating. Her exact words to a friend: "My husband's an angel, but I'm bored." The second wife, I realized multiple times, over and over, that I married exactly the right person for me.
GrizzledFart
31. Just Leave Me, Please
We had just moved out from my parent's place with our daughter. We had been living there for about 6 months because of financial difficulties (I was the only one working, he was not because of a bad back which ended up being a fake injury).
We were not getting along at all while living there and for some reason, I thought things would get better now that we had our own place.
The opposite happened; the yelling and swearing got worse. His controlling behaviour just got worse and worse to the point where if I had a shower without permission he would bang on the door while screaming at me.
I don't know the exact moment but it was sometime during that month that it all finally clicked in that it was never getting better. I knew he worked with some attractive women and I started hoping that he would have an affair with one of them and either leave me for her or it would give me the guts to leave.
I still felt sorry for him because of his (fake) back injury so I stayed with him for another year and a half. At that time he forced me and our daughter to move far away from my parents because they were beginning to figure out that he was faking his injury.
He ended our marriage 2 months after the move because I ran out of money for the first time in our relationship but we still lived together for around 6 months until he finally moved out because I suspect he wanted to get with another woman.
[deleted]
32. Ding, Dong
Not married, but in an LTR at the time. She heard a doorbell and asked me to get it. I never heard it and no one was there when I answered. She said, “I’m sorry, it was the tv.”
After more than two years I realized that was the first time she ever apologized about anything. That answered all my questions about why the relationship was struggling. We broke up soon after.
Newplasticactionhero
33. Just A Minute Of Your Time
He threw a surprise birthday for me, and towards the end I was inside near the food table and everyone had already gone outside.
I affectionately called him over as he was passing by to have a moment, he rolled his eyes and walked on saying he was hanging out with so and so.
Anyone, even a stranger on the road, was always more important, he just did not give a crap about me. He only did things for how he would appear to others.
100thusername
34. No More. It Ends Today!
Thankfully not married but living together. I knew it was over when he called me incompetent for taking literally less than 15 seconds to turn off subtitles on Netflix.
In that moment I realized that I had been living in fear and pain for so many years but that the things he was willing to put me down and call me names over were becoming smaller and smaller.
It dawned on me that day that I was living life by walking on eggshells and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Enough was definitely enough.
[deleted]
35. Ignorant Ex
I came home from a long day of work to find burn marks all over the carpet and linoleum. My then-husband had spent the entire day playing games on his PC.
While doing so, he had been ignoring our puppy who had managed to somehow get ahold of a phone battery, bite through it, and cause a small fire. Thankfully, the dog wasn't injured.
This event, on top of finding out shortly before he had been lying about going to community college for almost a year, was the turning point where my feelings died.
ttthelovewitchhh
36. Not a 100% Match
This will be a different answer. My wife is definitely my soul mate and best friend. I'll never find anyone that I can share my true thoughts/soul with.
She's everything I want in a mental partner. We complete each other in that regard.
Sexuality-wise, it's not the best match. Did I marry my best friend? Definitely. Was that a mistake? I don't know.
-Yuri-
37. Ghosted
Was engaged, not married. It was a three-year international relationship. I was completely ready for the battle with the US immigration system, which I still feel can go directly screw itself.
She had to leave after a normal month-long visit, which was totally normal and what we’d been doing for years. We PDA’ed all to hell at the airport and she said herself that she couldn’t wait to come back
Then went completely silent, with zero contact, the second she got home (Europe.) Took three days to get a phone call saying she was done. December 21, 2019.
I knew driving to work that morning that something horrible was going to happen that day, I could feel it, and I wish I could forget that feeling. Still ain’t over it, don’t plan to ever be.
MrLanesLament
38. Almost Went Sideways
Before we even got married, I realized his friend treated me with more understanding and compassion than he ever had. Married him anyway.
However, it’s been 11 years since then and we are still married. We’ve been through a lot, improved ourselves, and worked on things in our marriage.
I would never suggest someone stick it out with a partner who they are unhappy with because they might change, but in our case, it worked and we are happier than we’ve ever been.
I definitely wasn’t perfect either and I think we ultimately married too young (thanks to parents pushing us to be married ASAP rather than the long engagement we intended) but time and maturity have helped.
Sajiri
39. Bitter Much?
I knew it was a wrap all because of some laughs. Let me explain. We overheard some younger (20s) girls laughing and having a good time nearby.
I thought to myself “That’s a great laugh, sounds like they’re having fun” and enjoyed some vicarious happiness. My wife heard the same laugh, looked over at me, rolled her eyes, and went “God, I could just SLAP her.”
TheLastMagazine
40. Sabotage and Outrage
There were a lot of red flags. Things like him telling me I was low on the attractiveness scale, and embarrassing to him because I was intellectual, highly educated, yet extremely shy.
This meant I came across as a stuck-up snob to everyone. (Spoiler: only he and his friends thought this… maybe not even his friends.)
He also did other stuff like spending money on toys for himself that we had allocated for remodeling - pretty necessary stuff like getting rid of a 25-year-old disgusting carpet in a new-to-us house.
The kicker for me was when it came time to have kids. He swore he was all in, but when we weren’t getting pregnant we both got tested.
Turned out he had borderline low testosterone and some other issues that were solved with a simple over-the-counter daily medication that had zero side effects.
We tried and tried and I increasingly went through more painful and invasive testing and procedures- the whole time with him saying how he was in 100% because I checked in with him often to make sure.
Turned out he had been sabotaging the process the whole time. He was intentionally not taking the daily meds and doing some other stuff to ensure we would fail.
tossitintheroundfile
41. A Grave Mistake
Between the period after the wedding and leaving for our Honeymoon we stopped by our apartment. So, this is after our wedding. He turns to me and says:
"This was wrong, we shouldn't have done this. Stop smiling." This is after he ignored my family at the wedding.
Also, I paid for the wedding, the honeymoon, and all the wedding rings. Not my parents, me. Definitely one of my top self-sabotage moments. Still stuck in the marriage...
ImpossiblePurpose675
42. Chose Younger
I knew it was over when I found that he was texting and calling his 18-year-old student. Oh and did I mention that he was 33?
He was so mentally abusive and gaslit me for years that I made myself believe it was fine. Even when he met with her in a field at 1 am and even when he would stay out till 3 in the morning with her because she needed 'support,' I said it was fine.
I knew it was wrong but I was too embarrassed and weak to do anything and wanted my marriage to work. We have been divorced since 2019 and he is living out in Kuala Lumpur with Hannah. He really shouldn't work with kids ever again because he clearly manipulated Hannah, didn't you Tom?
wilease
43. I’m Done
When I finally got my son's double citizenship. His sister called him and said she set a date for her wedding and he made me stop the i130 process because he said he would not leave the country until after he had walked his sister down the aisle.
I crossed the border with my kids and he returned to Oaxaca. He didn’t say a word to me about him migrating back to the US until after 6 months had passed.
The whole time I’ve been a single mother to two kids, juggling their school my new job, getting registered to bring back to my own country after 10 years abroad, and my kids dealing with s new country new culture new language.
3 months in I decided I was done. He cemented for me that he was a mama's boy and he was never going to change. So I told him I was done.
FknDesmadreALV
44. Keeping Count
It was when I decided one day to keep a tally sheet to count how many days it was until the next time I heard her say to me either, "Thank you" or "I'm sorry" or any compliment at all.
I kept that sheet for months before I had an epiphany. The day it was over was the day I decided to start keeping track, not the day I hit some arbitrarily high number of tally marks. That day was the beginning of the end.
ForPrivateMatters
45. See You In The Morning
On our honeymoon, my husband suddenly couldn’t endure my snoring. He was so angry about the snoring that was keeping him awake, that he made himself a bed in the hotel room bathtub and made some pretty cruel comments to me. Borderline verbal abuse.
I felt really bad, so in tears, I grabbed my pillow and a blanket and I went to our rental car in the hotel parking lot. He didn’t come after me, and he texted to make sure that I got to the car okay.
I spent the entire night out there. He never came to retrieve his bride or apologize for being so mean-spirited. It hurt.
We’ve been married 4 years and we don’t sleep in the same bedroom. Sex is great, and then we part for sleep. Our marriage isn’t great, but we’re committed to making it better. There’s enough love to keep it going, for now.
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