One of the greatest and most powerful things that you can have in a relationship is trust. Trust is the foundation of a relationship which ensures that you are secure with your partner and also takes away a boatload of problems in your relationship. However, it isn't easy for someone to just wake up and start trusting their partner. It takes effort and hard work from both you and your partner to reach a point where you both just trust each other, no questions asked. If you are, therefore, working towards trust with your partner, here are some simple tips that will help you to build trust in your relationship.
Prioritize Open Communication
Regardless of how much you try to trust your partner or how much they try to trust you, without open communication, it will not happen. You need to be able to openly have heart-to-heart so that you can create a safe space that allows for honesty. When you master communicating honestly and openly, you will both feel secure in your relationship, and the result of this security is trust. If you, therefore, want to build trust between you and your partner, you need to ensure that you take time to openly communicate about your feelings and thoughts.
Follow Through On Promises
Although it may seem silly and minor, the truth is that every time you break promises or don't do something that you promised to do for your partner, they will trust you less and less every time. This is because if you can't even keep the smaller promises, how will you be able to keep the bigger commitments? With this in mind, you should ensure that you keep every promise that you make to your partner. Otherwise, don't make promises at all, as not keeping the promise will leave them betrayed, eating away the trust in your relationship.
Don't Shy Away From Vulnerability
While simple things are fun and uncomplicated, you can never truly connect with your partner if you aren't vulnerable with them on an emotional level. Stop the superficial conversations and delve into the real stuff. Share your vulnerabilities, fears and everything that matters with each other. With this vulnerability, you will be able to build a unique relationship that is characterised by trust. By building this deeper connection, the trust in your relationship will increase, paving the way for an amazing and enjoyable experience.
Don't Keep Secrets
One way to easily destroy trust in a relationship is by keeping secrets. Although it may seem like the secret is safely tucked away, the truth will always end up coming to light, and when it does, things will become explosive. It is, therefore, more convenient and conducive for you to have a no-secret policy between you and your partner. Be friends before anything and make room to share anything and everything. By creating such an environment, you'll both feel more secure and your relationship will lean more towards building trust between you.
Own Up To Mistakes
If you lie about simple things, such as mistakes that you made, why would anyone believe you and trust you when it comes to other things? You should, therefore, ensure that when you make mistakes, you don't try to hide them but instead are accountable for them. Although owning up to mistakes is hard and embarrassing momentarily, it speaks to your honesty and your values. Therefore, if you own up to the mistakes that you make, your partner will trust you more and it will help build towards the overall trust in the relationship.
Be Consistent
Consistency is something that is undermined in many relationships and the result of this is that the trust in a relationship will be easily broken. You must stand on the values, beliefs and actions that you said you were going to stand on as this reflects on your honesty. Imagine if someone switched up on you time and time again by contradicting what they would have said. Wouldn't you lose trust in them too? This is the same when it comes to you. If you are not consistent with your words, actions and behaviour in your relationship, it will diminish trust. If you, therefore, want to maintain a good level of trust between you and your partner, be consistent.
Create A Non-Judgemental Environment
For some reason, despite being flawed and having our problems, it's easier to judge other people than to judge yourselves. This characteristic is one that you should flash away from your relationship as it will kill it prematurely and cause a strain on both you and your partner if it survives. If you start judging in your relationship, your partner will start telling you fewer and fewer things for fear of judgment and in the end, you will both become closed off, taking a toll on your trust in each other. You should, therefore, create a non-judgmental environment in your relationship where you can share anything without being judged. This way, trust will be enhanced, making your relationship stronger.
Forgive
When people say you should forgive, they don't mean that you should momentarily pretend like you are okay and then keep bringing back the issue every chance you get. To truly move on from a mistake and continue trusting your partner, you need to truly resolve your feelings and cultivate forgiveness from within you so that the issue does not continue lingering within the relationship and affecting you in turn. If you, therefore, want to build trust in your relationship, forgive.