"My body. My body knew right away that something was wrong. My anxiety manifested in physical discomfort that I ignored. One user mentioned butterflies that didn't feel good, that's exactly what I felt from day one. But I was lonely and completely infatuated, and (I thought) in love.
My codependency made me ignore what my body was telling me. The physical discomfort only got worse as the abuse began. I will never forget that physical feeling in my gut. It was strong." -Reddit user CalligrapherPretty48
"Called his exes crazy, showed a glimpse of his anger about three months in, and came up with excuses/ covered it up, so I didn’t think much of it.
Bombarded me with love and affection only to completely withdraw months later." -Reddit user dreadedmama
"Seemed angry at me when I broke my foot but at the same time joked about being happy that I would have to stay at home alone for at least several weeks while he had lots of travels and events planned. Showed no empathy whatsoever. The tone of voice changed abruptly to aggressive, sometimes in the middle of a conversation for no reason, and I was like, “What the f*ck?
Who’s that person." -Reddit user Idontknow_But
"That every single past relationship was ended because the other person was "crazy," it was all the other person's fault, and she was just the innocent victim every single time." -Reddit user SnooCakes695
"When I was having a miscarriage, and he wouldn't wake up to take me to the hospital because he had to work later that night. Drove myself.
That's the biggest one of so many others." -Reddit user systematic_failure81
"Excessive gambling. We would sometimes go to the casino in our city. I would spend maybe 40-60 bucks just for fun. She would take out 400 dollars at a time, and even if she was winning at the slots, she would gamble it all away.
One time she hit 3000 on a 5-dollar bet and still lost it all just kept going. I would protest this, and she would just get angry, then, later on, ask to borrow money. It was pathetic." -Reddit user dieselkratos
"When, a week into our relationship, he said, “I been deleted the Tinder app. I don’t know how to delete my profile”.
He was a millennial working in IT tech support for a living, but he didn’t know how to press SETTINGS > DELETE. Hilarious." -Reddit user SnooLentils6600
"When he blew up on me for oversleeping for a morning date. I had worked a double and was going to school full time.
I was exhausted. I called him and apologized profusely, and he ignored me for a couple of days." -Reddit user grafittia
"He always joked about manipulating people.
At first, I thought it was just some Reddit humor that I wasn't aware of, but I didn't realize he wasn't joking until I had already been manipulated." -Reddit user hcraven0803
"Thinking he fell in love with me within three weeks. The way he portrayed himself in the beginning.
Now I know he was mirroring me so he would seem like my soul mate." -Reddit user Content_Kangaroo_994
"The first time he was at my house, he walked straight over to my fridge to check out what was inside it. Smirking while doing so, as if he were able to gather information and make assumptions about me.
Who does that?? Rude af." -Reddit user Pure-Tea-2675
"This was my first red flag, and I remember it bothering me, but our connection was so strong. I wish I took it more seriously.
I could have saved myself six years and infinite tears. He was reading this comic, and the creator announced that they had gotten a scary cancer diagnosis and had to take a break. My ex was annoyed about the inconvenience of the break." -Reddit user pfiz23
"He didn't come to my birthday party I really cared about after we had been dating for 2 weeks because he didn't like the place I had it at.
He had never been there before, and I was looking forward to having him hang out with my friends." -Reddit user Yonah87
"The first red flag for me was how I couldn't talk to the opposite sex.
Even a simple conversation was flirting, and if I smiled towards them and said thank you to a cashier, he would get extremely mad at me for being nice to anybody, really." -Reddit user frozeinreality
"Having friends who are not nice people.
If their friends are like that and they think it's ok, they're probably not great either." -Reddit user